You are absolutely right to point that out. My first explanation leaned a bit too heavily on the modern usage of "stopping," while missing the
reciprocal or
equitable heart of the phrase.
The "quits" in "calling it quits" specifically refers to being
quit of one another—meaning both parties are even, debts are settled, and neither owes the other anything.
The Sense of "Evenness"
The phrase is deeply rooted in the idea of a
draw or a
mutual settlement. When you "call it quits," you are essentially agreeing that:
- Status is Equal: "I don't owe you, and you don't owe me."
- Balance is Restored: If there was a conflict or a competition, the score is settled at a point where both can walk away without further obligation.
- Mutual Release: It’s a "release" from a contract, a debt, or a grudge.
Historical Context
In Middle English, the word
quite meant "free" or "clear" (related to the modern word "acquitted"). If two people were "quits," it meant their accounts were balanced.
Example: If you and a friend have been trading favors or perhaps small debts, and you realize the math is getting complicated, you might say, "Let's just call it quits." You aren't just stopping; you are agreeing that the "ledger" is now at zero.
How this differs from "Giving Up"
This "equitable" nuance is what distinguishes it from simply quitting:
- Giving Up: One person stops because they can't continue (unilateral).
- Calling it Quits: Both parties (or a person and their task) reach a point of mutual conclusion where the current state is accepted as the final state.