How are transwomen not male bodied? They have XY chromosomes. Literally every cell in their body is coded as a male of the species. You may not like the term, but it is accurate. A man can have surgery and take hormones, but biologically it does not turn them magically into a women. Their body, muscle structures etc are all male.
Women have wombs, uterus and ovaries. Most of them have a monthly bleed and can create a new human inside them. This is something that no-one born male can ever experience. The best someone born male can do is to adjust their body to look more female. It is cosmetic, not biological. This is one of the points that infuriates many women. You may be born male, and aspire to live as a woman might live, but medical science cannot, at this time, turn you into a woman.
This is not to say, of course, that we should deny anyone who wants to, the ability to live their lives as they want. Personally I am a little bit cautious of the surgical aspect of transitioning, purely because we do not carry out massive surgical alteration for any other form of dysmorphia. Usually surgical intervention is only carried out to restore the body or to allow it to continue to develop in the way that it should be developing. But, I am happy with myself, and if there is a choice between surgery or potential suicide, then I can see the case for it - but I do think that it should be reserved as a last resort treatment.
I have said before that I value your contributions to this topic, and that is precisely because you are someone who is in a position to know a lot about what someone transitioning goes through. It can never be easy. This is not a topic which is going to have any easy answers, but I do think that shutting down discussion is wrong.
Again in the news today we have an example of that:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-edinburgh-east-fife-65451979
Staff were "not comfortable with her views on transgender issues". Sorry - I wasn't aware that venue staff were there to approve the acts appearing at the venue. They can choose to work there or not. Whether it's Joanna Cherry, Roy Chubby Brown, Rishi Sunak or the Pope, they should be allowed to book the venue and do their performance. The audience can choose to watch them or not. This new puritanism does not sit well with me.