Pblakeney
Squire
You're assuming it all went into the joint bank account.
E & I have a joint account into which we pay as necessary, but otherwise we have separate financial arrangements and don't usually discuss these with each other. If E was embezzling someone I probably wouldn't know anything about it.
Myself and my wife don't even have a shared account. What we do with our money is our business, as long as the bills are paid.
I don't have a clue how much she has, and I don't question her purchases. And the reverse for her. I imagine there was a similar setup for them.