BRFR Cake Stop 'breaking news' miscellany

[Dorset Boy]

Reports of near 5 hour delays at Dover to get through French border controls before the French suspended them.
EES continues to be a spectacular balls up by the EU.

 

[Ian H]

A first glance at the inside page of the regional newspaper had me momentarily confused.

 

[First Aspect]

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Not personally but I know one childless couple who chose to foster as an alternative.
Hard work but very rewarding. Not in a financial way

It isn't a salary as such, but it's between £20k-£40k a year per child. It is a vital part of the finances of many foster carers. But it is not something you should consider for that reason, because the challenges wouldn't be worth it. The approval process is also onerous,. necessarily.

My OH has been working in this sector for 20 years.

 

[briantrumpet]

It isn't a salary as such, but it's between £20k-£40k a year per child. It is a vital part of the finances of many foster carers. But it is not something you should consider for that reason, because the challenges wouldn't be worth it. The approval process is also onerous,. necessarily.

Yes, I had a parent of a pupil who was a serial foster carer, and as far as I could tell it was a considerable commitment and emotionally draining for the family.

 

[First Aspect]

Yes, I had a parent of a pupil who was a serial foster carer, and as far as I could tell it was a considerable commitment and emotionally draining for the family.

It isn't always hard going, but it seems to me that kids who need foster care are necessarily going to be damaged in some way. I wouldn't and couldn't do it, that's for sure.

And then there is adoption, which can have the same issues with the addition of massive crushing guilt.amd.irrevocable damage from rejection, of it breaks down.

Teaching music or fannying around writing about inventions seems comparatively easy.

 

[briantrumpet]

Teaching music or fannying around writing about inventions seems comparatively easy.

It does indeed. I was full of admiration for the young lad with the way he (apparently) dealt matter of factly with having needy young people continually taking his mum's attention.

 

[First Aspect]

It does indeed. I was full of admiration for the young lad with the way he (apparently) dealt matter of factly with having needy young people continually taking his mum's attention.

That's another can of worms. The word "collateral" comes to mind in some instances.

 

[briantrumpet]

That's another can of worms. The word "collateral" comes to mind in some instances.

He seemed more mature – in a generally good way– than his actual age. That said, losing a bit of childhood to finding a way to deal with it probably wasn't good, but I think he'd have probably turned out OK, as at least he had a level head.

 

[PurplePenguin]

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It isn't a salary as such, but it's between £20k-£40k a year per child. It is a vital part of the finances of many foster carers. But it is not something you should consider for that reason, because the challenges wouldn't be worth it. The approval process is also onerous,. necessarily.

My OH has been working in this sector for 20 years.

Is it easier to get a job in a residential home for kids than to become a foster carer? My feeling is that it must be and that that makes sense, but also that it is a less desirable outcome for the kids.

 

[First Aspect]

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Is it easier to get a job in a residential home for kids than to become a foster carer? My feeling is that it must be and that that makes sense, but also that it is a less desirable outcome for the kids.

Yes. Everyone has to do disosure checks, but foster care assessment is more about whether the lifestyles and physical space is suitable for a child.

 

[briantrumpet]

Yes. Everyone has to do disosure checks, but foster care assessment is more about whether the lifestyles and physical space is suitable for a child.

I imagine similar in thoroughness to adopting.

 

[Pross]

A family friend has been long term fostering for about 50 years. They’ve got a very active, outdoor life with their own land and horses etc. (but not in a posh way). They’ve had a lot of kids in their care over that time and have helped some fairly troubled ones turn their lives around. The local authority has recently decided her husband is too old and that they can no longer foster despite being willing and physically capable.