Firstly, I don't think there are any "phobes" involved in the discussion. I haven't seen anyone post on here that transwomen or men make them fearful or anxious. In fact quite a few people have posted that there are no issues with supporting people who believe they are trans to live in the way they want to live, to not be bullied and to be supported.
What people *have* posted is that that support does not include riding roughshod over the rights of other groups and we need to remember that one group of people's wellbeing does not magically trump another groups. There is a lot of middle ground to find which is made harder by the group of people who would kill TERFS and shut down any conversation about how best to support people.
The recent discussion about crime reporting and violence by men is about this:-
https://x.com/jk_rowling/status/1762187612352020860?s=20
The pandering to political correctness that insists the reporting around this crime portrays it as a crime by a woman and not a man. There is an excellent rebuttal to the Guardian's reporting further up JK's twitter feed.