Seemingly trivial things that elicit an emotional response of some kind

[First Aspect]

I’ll have another look later but I didn’t think it was. It was all such a tangled mess and I was so fed up that my first proper road ride in years ended up getting cut short I didn’t look very closely but I thought the hanger was still intact. I actually have a spare mech from when I upgraded my ‘best’ bike (now about 16 years old) and I think that’s a medium cage too so changing mech would actually be easier for me. Safest solution is probably a new bike though.

It's not. You can still see it's attached at the hanger bolt.

 

[Psamathe]

Is that really what they are saying? Might be the words they are using but, when I lived in France I found French women have a very very different attitude that in the UK. At least I think so because my emigration also corresponded to my giving up work and very long hours and a life of nothing but work but attitudes were different.

I've probably lost a little muscle tone in, erm, 'the chest area', and I suspect that that's what they have noticed. Even so, I still think it's rather impolite to publicly note a change in weight either way, whether or not someone's been ill. I mean, if someone had cancer, "You've lost weight" would be more than a little insensitive. If someone's been ill, saying they look ill would be extremely crass, and even when someone looks well, saying "You look well" can be really upsetting for the person if they really aren't well.

Wasn't what I meant (but I was being deliberately non-direct).

Major difference I noticed in France was relationships are much less exclusive, much more open. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you can't or won't have other relationships. Fewer cultural hang-ups than UK 20-40 age group.

 

[briantrumpet]

Wasn't what I meant (but I was being deliberately non-direct).

Major difference I noticed in France was relationships are much less exclusive, much more open. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you can't or won't have other relationships. Fewer cultural hang-ups than UK 20-40 age group.

Ah, OK. Haven't really been aware of that.

 

[Pross]

Definitely the actual mech arm. I’ve taken it off now. The cage is all bent too. Must have taken a knock when it was being transported after the charity thing I did recently. I lost a spoke from the back wheel in my commute the other day too.

 

[BoldonLad]

Definitely the actual mech arm. I’ve taken it off now. The cage is all bent too. Must have taken a knock when it was being transported after the charity thing I did recently. I lost a spoke from the back wheel in my commute the other day too.

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definitely a good case for a new bike 😂

 

[Pross]

I can’t work out how it should look, there’s no obvious sign of what it was attached to.

 

[Mr Celine]

Oh yes, so it is, I think. Only done it once, but it did exactly as intended. And as you say, you need to be careful you get the exact hanger needed, probably best via a LBS or one that deals in the marque and knows their oignons.

This is what a broken hanger looks like -

Damage sustained due to excessively deep ruts made by arsèhole offroaders.

Dere Street roman road near Jedburgh. Fortunately most of the 3 miles back to the car were downhill.

 

[Ian H]

This is what a broken hanger looks like -

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Damage sustained due to excessively deep ruts made by arsèhole offroaders.

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Dere Street roman road near Jedburgh. Fortunately most of the 3 miles back to the car were downhill.

I had to straighten one on one of my bikes the other day.

 

[Electric_Andy]

I've probably lost a little muscle tone in, erm, 'the chest area', and I suspect that that's what they have noticed. Even so, I still think it's rather impolite to publicly note a change in weight either way, whether or not someone's been ill. I mean, if someone had cancer, "You've lost weight" would be more than a little insensitive. If someone's been ill, saying they look ill would be extremely crass, and even when someone looks well, saying "You look well" can be really upsetting for the person if they really aren't well.

I've had all of those things said to me, by colleagues, friends and family. I've struggled with my weight all my life, and everyone knows I'm like a yoyo. I think they are trying to be nice when they say "you look well", i.e. you don't need to try and lose weight. It's weird in the traditional farming/rural community. You're expected to be portly as it's a sign that you're not neglecting your calories!

I'm not sure it's insensitive to say "you look well" though, unless you don't know the person well enough to know whether they're seriously ill or not. People just like to boost other people sometimes

 

[briantrumpet]

Yes, the most recent (FB friend) comment was from the motherly type, and given that I'm an orphan now...

Same friend has done it twice more now, despite me saying I'm closely following the advice, so a very gentle nudge "As I mentioned before, I'm carefully following advice" in reply has brought an apology and a promise not to keep on 'nagging' (her word, not mine). I guess it's just a motherly instinct, but she's not my mother... in any case, I'd have asked my mother not to nag too, had she still been alive and, er, nagging me.

 

[BoldonLad]

Same friend has done it twice more now, despite me saying I'm closely following the advice, so a very gentle nudge "As I mentioned before, I'm carefully following advice" in reply has brought an apology and a promise not to keep on 'nagging' (her word, not mine). I guess it's just a motherly instinct, but she's not my mother... in any case, I'd have asked my mother not to nag too, had she still been alive and, er, nagging me.

Be a man, Just accept the nagging 😂

 

[briantrumpet]

Be a man, Just accept the nagging 😂

Like this?

 

[briantrumpet]

For those of you who Facebook, read this and despair at the comments along with me:
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tl;dr there are two parallel bridges on this vital road that desperately need replacing, basically as they are falling apart. Devon County Council publicise a consultation (TBH, not quite sure why, other than not to be seen as dictatorial), and most of the comments are about an impossibly busy roundabout half a mile away, or cyclists, or... FFS. The only metrics they seem to be thinking about is "Why can't I drive faster and there not be traffic jams?" Utter idiots.

 

[Ian H]

For those of you who Facebook, read this and despair at the comments along with me:
View: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialDevonCC/posts/pfbid0znnY6BpHSKXR4vbxQ6UBm6QgnYAjkRpWuAUWXn3bRbbFwnGbbQr6A7AotVw9G5Ggl


tl;dr there are two parallel bridges on this vital road that desperately need replacing, basically as they are falling apart. Devon County Council publicise a consultation (TBH, not quite sure why, other than not to be seen as dictatorial), and most of the comments are about an impossibly busy roundabout half a mile away, or cyclists, or... FFS. The only metrics they seem to be thinking about is "Why can't I drive faster and there not be traffic jams?" Utter idiots.

Yebbut, FB attracts a hugely disproportionate number of keyboard warrior-pricks.

 

[Pblakeney]

For those of you who Facebook, read this and despair at the comments along with me:
View: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialDevonCC/posts/pfbid0znnY6BpHSKXR4vbxQ6UBm6QgnYAjkRpWuAUWXn3bRbbFwnGbbQr6A7AotVw9G5Ggl


tl;dr there are two parallel bridges on this vital road that desperately need replacing, basically as they are falling apart. Devon County Council publicise a consultation (TBH, not quite sure why, other than not to be seen as dictatorial), and most of the comments are about an impossibly busy roundabout half a mile away, or cyclists, or... FFS. The only metrics they seem to be thinking about is "Why can't I drive faster and there not be traffic jams?" Utter idiots.

My favourite is pages of comments about the state of the roads and how something has to be done.
Followed by pages of comments about the inconvenience of roadworks.